Overcoming the Pain of the Past...

You know… PTSD is a real thing. It can happen in marriages. It can happen in relationships, in friendships, and especially childhood traumatic events or lifestyles. Sometimes the anxieties and depressive cycles that come and go in the day to day can make a person feel like they are crazy or bipolar or that something is just wrong with them… or their spouse, if blaming is a go-to coping mechanism. We carry with us suppressed emotions, toxic fears, and negative reactions and at times get stuck in these intense cycles that are just not healthy.

Processing our feelings is not near as scary as it might sound. Everyone needs to feel safe and loved. There is nothing wrong with seeking comfort and healing. If you truly desire change in the here and now… sometimes, we have to go backward a few steps before we can move forward. Think about it… If you are a parent and you have a child that is repeatedly reacting in a negative way in a certain situation, a wise response might be to take the child by the hand and go back to where the behavior began and do what we call in behavioral intervention as a “redo.” In a “redo” you basically assist the child in going back to what they were doing and coaching them through a new reaction. You allow the child the grace to practice this new behavior with positive affirmation which enforces the new response. So… what’s the big deal? Can we not, become like a child and learn a new way? Would it not be an act of self love, to retrain our brains to react in new healthier ways that produce the type of person we truly desire to be? We have so much control and power over ourselves that we don’t even realize! It’s like an untapped into mystery… a treasure chest of gifts for ourselves, within ourselves, just waiting to be explored.

So here’s the invitation: If you want to overcome the pain of the past, allow yourself to change. You can change your story… your can change your thoughts.. you can change your reactions… what motivates your reactions.. what triggers you even.. Just be open to the transformation and give yourself permission to change your perspective. I always find myself telling clients… if you can change your mind, you can change your future. I totally believe that. Honestly, I believe that if you can change the way you see your situation, you can even change the pain of the past, into the fuel for your future. Come on guys… This is real. I wouldn’t be posting it if it didn’t work for me and at least ten other people who have believed my ranting.

So if this is relative, and if you need help… reach out. Contact us or comment below.. share with friends… whatever you feel led to do… but Become the Overcomer and enter into a life of peace.